I Purged All the Hot Girls from My Instagram

For a girl I’m not even dating.

Alright, ladies. Listen up: If a man tells you he doesn’t follow any girls who post suggestive pictures on Instagram, there are generally only two possibilities. Either he’s gay, or he’s lying. It’s that simple. I don’t care if he’s married — happily or otherwise. I don’t care how old or young he is. In the male world, Instagram is used to check out beautiful women.

Now, I’m not saying that’s a bad thing. I’m not calling anyone out. Even I was the same for years. I mean, I’m highly aggressive by nature. My testosterone levels are high thanks to my lifestyle, diet, and rigorous exercise — 7 days of Olympic weightlifting per week. So of course I like women. I like women a lot. And you used to be able to tell from my Instagram feed. I mean, what else am I supposed to use the damn thing for? Food? Puppies? Photography? Forget it. I used it for one thing, and one thing only. And most men I’ve met are the same. The only difference is in how much they admit to it.

Previously, having attractive women on my Instagram wasn’t a problem for me. In fact, it still isn’t a problem for me now. For starters, I don’t notice any ill effects of all this stimulation, mentally or otherwise. I’ve still been working 90–100 hours a week. I’ve still been writing. Progressing. Growing. Learning. Things are fine. And I’m not even dating anyone — been single for years now. So it’s not like there’s any external pressure to quit it, either. That is, until I started talking to this one girl.

A while ago, I made a new friend. We had a lot in common where it mattered: Values. Both down to earth. Both super straightforward. That kickstarted the bonding process. Plus, she’s one of the most creative people I’ve ever met. So massive respect there. And honestly, with me, that’s all you need. If you can get me to respect you — genuinely — you’ve got me. Last but not least, I wasn’t oblivious to the fact that she was rather fetching. So the thought crossed my mind more than once. What if I asked her out? How would that work?

But that thought triggered other more important thoughts. If I were to date this person, what would I do? Who would I want to be? What would I want to bring to the table? Important questions. It’s a lot to think about. But one thing that stood out to me immediately was loyalty. And that brings us back to my dear ladies on Instagram.

Guys, this isn’t rocket science. Let’s put ourselves in a woman’s shoes. If we’re women, and our man’s checking out other ladies on Instagram, it probably doesn’t feel great. Sure, we might have the maturity to let it slide. Or, we might trust him enough to not worry. But still, if you could just snap your fingers and magically make him not want to do it, anymore, wouldn’t you? If you had the choice, wouldn’t you rather him not do it? And even if you wouldn’t rather have him not do it, wouldn’t you respect the man who didn’t do it more than the man who did? My point is, if we were women, we wouldn’t like our men checking out other women on Instagram.

The way I see it, this is dead simple. It’s a matter of commitment. I got rid of all the bikini models on my feed because I believed in this girl I met in real life so much. I just felt like I didn’t need other attractive women, anymore. And again, it’s not like we’re dating. I don’t even plan to ask, anytime soon. I was just thinking about the hypothetical scenario where I did ask her out. In that case, I’d love to be the man who is so committed that I don’t even look at other girls. By my own choice, too. Even before I “have to”. If you ask me, that’s what every girl deserves.

Trading bot engineer, songwriter, sponsor of artists. <mika@myika.co>

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