Life has a funny way of tossing surprises at you, just when you start to get bored. That’s exactly what happened one night in December 2020. I was out for dinner with an old friend. Chatting about work, technology, and more work. The usual. And suddenly, I got a strange phone call.
I had to blink 5 times to make sure I was reading the name correctly. It was my best friend who’d abandoned me a long time ago. In the midst of the global lockdowns earlier that year, I found myself going mad. I went to a dark place. It must’ve been tough to be around me. So everyone left, including her.
But here she was, once again. Never thought I’d hear from her again. I picked up the phone tentatively. “Hello, do you have the right number?” I said immediately. And ten minutes later, I was speeding along to my ex-best friend who was holed up someplace on the other side of the city. She sounded worse off than I had ever been. I legitimately thought I was going to stop a suicide.
Thankfully, it wasn’t so drastic. She just needed someone to talk and cry to. And I guess I was still on the list. She sat next to me, head on my shoulder, dripping teardrops on my white Lacoste. Shisha pipe in one hand. A picture of her dying family member in the other. It was quite the moment. And all I could think was, “Wow. I should be feeling something, right now. But all I want to do is get back to work.”
Not the ending you were expecting, I know. But hear me out. I’ve got a skill that comes in handy a lot in entrepreneurship: Emotional stability. I’m not easily upset. It takes a lot to scare me. In fact, I hardly have any negative thoughts at all.
It sounds absurd even writing down. But I wish I could somehow share a stream of my raw thoughts just to show you how often I’m above the baseline. It’s weird, even for me.
But what does that have to do with my poor ex-best friend? Well, a stable baseline is nice. But I’ve found it also lowers the baseline. In other words, I’m impervious to dips in my mental wellbeing, but the regular baseline is lower, too. Still, this is the ultimate skill for entrepreneurs, isn’t it? Nothing can shake you. Just make sure you’re ready when the friendly people come knocking.